"Hey, this party is crackin' there's tons of bitches."
"Don't come if you don't have hot bitches with you."
"Bitches get in for free."
"That place was a sausage fest, I swear there were NO bitches."
It would be easier to give all the reasons that comments like these aren't degrading, but then there would be absolutely nothing to say, right? Day after day I see Facebook posts about how "slutty" this girl is, and how "trashy" another is. How she is trying too hard.
"Yo, bring bitches."
"Hey, this party is crackin' there's tons of bitches."
"Don't come if you don't have hot bitches with you."
"Bitches get in for free."
"That place was a sausage fest, I swear there were NO bitches." <-- This is why she's "trying so hard."
Boys make their expectations, not to mention their intentions, very clear. "Hot bitches."
Then they turn around and complain about the rise of promiscuity in our generation. On the weekends, girls are often given a choice between staying at home and watching Netflix with their cat, or going out to party. In order for them to even be let in the door however, they have to shave their legs, put on a miniskirt, rub bronzing lotions all over their body, put on fake eyelashes, brush their extensions, pencil in their eyebrows, paint their nails, tease the life out of their hair, and put on a push up bra that would suffocate any teenage boy unconscious.
By the time they make it inside, they look like JWOWW, only 17.
Then, being a 17 year old girl who doesn't have a 23 year old brother in the Army reserves who buys her alcohol, she feels like she has to flirt to get herself a beer. Also, being a 17 year old girl, she thinks beer is gross, so she just starts chasing shots.
Now she's drunk, looks like JWOWW, and is surrounded by a mass of equally drunk adolescent boys. Mind you they didn't want her there in the first place unless she was wearing a hot pink garment that hardly covers her no-no zone. Clearly these little guys wanted some sloppy drunk, ill advised, i'm-never-gonna-talk-to-you-again high school action.
Now her judgement is impaired (an actual psychological effect of alcohol, so yes, it is an "excuse") and she comes up with some story in her mind that if she sleeps with this guy, he's going to realize that she has a heart of gold, and he's going to have her stay over all the next day wearing his basketball shorts, playing video games, and eating waffles.
In reality, the result of giving herself up is total loss of respect. At least what little there could have been after referring to her as "bitch" all the time.
Instead of giving her his basketball shorts and cuddling with his new boo all night, he turns over and goes to sleep. She stays up all night, probably crying, and regretting what happened. She leaves early the next morning without saying anything. Over the next couple of weeks she starts to realize what she really gave up... all of her self-respect. At least what little there could have been after letting people refer to her as "bitch" all the time.
She wants to make what happened seem okay, so she texts the same boy a winky face.
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She'll try again. This time he'll really fall for her.
This, my friends, is what's going on here. He never falls for her, because he never had the intention of falling for her. She was just a "hot bitch." But now, see, she thinks there is something wrong with her.
What is it that wasn't good enough for him? Am I good enough for anybody?
So she keeps trying. She keeps trying to find her way into a guy's world the only way she knows how; the way you taught her, in fact.
By being a "hot bitch."
Give some respect and maybe you'll get that girl with the heart of gold who will play video games all day wearing your basketball shorts, and eating waffles. Even if you don't want her today, don't ruin her for tomorrow. God created her so that she could love you, and be loved by you.
She is not meant to be disrespected or taken lightly.
